Narcissists can always climb, by lying and cheating, to the top of every social ladder that they want to climb. Regardless of natural intelligence, they are all well-enough equipped to become the top bosses, the top politicians especially, that rule the World. They all greatly prefer the New Order of Artificial Intelligence over the chaos of empathic human beings.

We have all met the Overt Narcissist – theatrical, exciting, vivacious, entertaining, strangely sexy beyond their attributes, surrounded by an admiring group of followers, so sharp-seeming that many believe the Narc could change the world a fact which their followers don’t even question – in fact they will fund their favoured Narc’s social ventures. Self-referential, self-reverential, self-focused, seemingly justifiably selfish, flash-tempered, aggressive, punishing, sometimes triangulating in private, sometimes mocking in public.

What about a Covert Narcissist? Same person as an Overt Narc but lacking in confidence. Unlikely to want to be the centre of attention yet capable of it. Otherwise the same flash-tempered, aggressive, punishing, triangulating, mocking monster behind the scenes.

The ON will try always to win for the sake of winning and will not be happy to allow you anything above a draw. The CN will yield sometimes like any ordinary person in some unimportant little row. The female CN is often seen by others as a sweet little wifey. Try telling them that she lies about everything and never will be a truthful partner to you so that it is impossible to achieve any balance in your life. Or that sexually she’s absolutely anybody’s (because she thinks absolutely everybody is here for her)  bringing disgrace upon you and leading to little trust in you for keeping her among those who can spot the truth, usually because she signalled them inappropriately sometime.

It may take years, decades even, to recognize covert Narcissistic Personality Disorder. In that time you may have suspected their disloyalties and noticed some puzzling  ‘gas-lightings’ by them but had no real hard evidence. Eventually the circumstantial evidence piles up.

They have spent the best part of a lifetime mimicking human behaviours, ticks and responses. Emotionally they seem human on the outside. But because they are not clouded inside by love or sentiment or truth-telling or any sense of fair play they have plenty of time and brain-space to sum people up in depth – including on first meeting, a little like martial artists who are judging speed of reflexes and shoulder muscle size etc. when they first meet a body. (“Yes, I could take him down easily like this or like that”.)

The first aim of the Narc is to hook you up, then chop out your friends, possibly by going to bed with them, then tell lies to your family if the Narc can get them onto their side. Propaganda. This is War. Given enough time they will isolate you and then destroy you.

The Covert Narcissist believes they are the tops but is aware that the world does not always agree with them. The Overt Narc skates over unpleasant thoughts like that.

They love-bomb you at first. It will feel too good to be true. Then they will dig in. They test you with some offensiveness that anybody should walk out on them for but then stand back and observe your response. Forgive them or give them the benefit of the doubt and you will find it very difficult to ever shake them off. After that you are being farmed seriously for your negative emotional responses, for the steam, for the smoke.

You may be innocently wondering how deeply they love you at exactly the same time as they rage inside over some talent or success of yours that they want to destroy in a narcissistic envy frenzy. Show your weak spots and vulnerabilities and they will drain you out like a mortician.

Covert Narcissists are too dangerous! You will not see them coming! Like a magician they will have you hazy about what you saw and should be able to remember clearly, likewise believing things happened that didn’t happen at all.

Despite that you feel that they must love you, everyday with them becomes a lost day, a day of emotional disappointments.

There is no cure for Narcissistic Personality Disorder (a state that can blur with psycopathy and sadism) mainly because the disordered do not recognize any suffering or disadvantage on their part. Just the opposite.

‘Gaslight’ was the name of a movie, I think, in which a man sets out to destroy the confidence of his partner in all that she sees and hears. When she remarks that the lights flickered on-and-off he tells her that it simply did not happen, perhaps she’s imagining it, and so on until she thinks she’s losing her grip over sensory perceptions. His ultimate goal is her death.

Triangulation is a deadly evil technique involving telling somebody in friendly or helpful confidence a cunning lie that they are unlikely to ever challenge out in the open. You say that’s what somebody else has said about them. It’s a favourite of NPD Narcs.

Narcissists can always climb, by lying and cheating, to the top of every social ladder that they want to climb. Regardless of natural intelligence, they are all well-enough equipped to become the top bosses, the top politicians especially, that rule the World. They all greatly prefer the New Order of Artificial Intelligence over the chaos of empathic human beings.

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~ by nigelraymondofford on May 5, 2018.

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